Executive Summary.

I am a middle-aged PhD qualified scientist that has uncovered the path to true masculinity. This document will walk the reader through a series of steps that any man can take to embrace, and then exude, his native masculinity. The result will be success and fulfillment in every area of his life, both professionally and personally. I’ve prepared this document because I’ve not seen this either discussed or explained anywhere else, at least using the process that I will be describing.

Discussion

I have spent much of my adult  life being jealous of other men. I wasn’t jealous of their looks or intelligence or money but the way they carried themselves. Some men seemed to have a confidence, a swagger, a presence, an assuredness that was foreign to me. They knew who they were and what they were and didn’t care what others thought of them.

I knew that they had something I didn’t have, And I wished it were mine. Were they born this way, or was it something that I could attain? I was left in this quandary because I had a bad father who didn’t teach me what it was to be a man. Thus I was cast adrift and left to find my own way in life.

As I got older I came to understand that the confidence that these men possessed could be interpreted, in simplest terms, as them being in touch with their masculinity. In other words, they knew what it was to be a man.

How could I attain this? What was the path? And was it attainable to anyone, or did you have to just be born with it? Thus I looked far and wide and at many different sources. Eventually, the pieces of the jigsaw puzzle began to fit together. I discovered that, for a man, masculinity is something to be embraced, not learned. That is, I came to realise that it was something innate in me, and in everyone with XY chromosomes. I just had to learn how to embrace it and release it.

In other words, you don’t have to watch any of the hundreds of YouTube videos which tell men how to conduct themselves with confidence and in a masculine manner. These videos tell you how to dress, how to message people, what to say, and how to interact with people in general. Once you embrace your innate masculinity you won’t need any of this advice. In all these areas you will be acting out of your inner nature and won’t need any instruction.

I have now walked this path myself. Although it’s still a work in progress, in principle I have become the man I always wanted to be. This document will not describe the various processes I used to come to this understanding, but will simply skip to the conclusions.

It will describe the process in a systematic manner. As a scientist this kind of thing is my stock in trade – being able to understand a process well enough that I can break it down into a series of steps that if carried through will result in any man achieving supreme masculine fulfilment.

Follow these steps and you will become a man amongst boys. People will notice your confidence and swagger. We live in an emasculated culture and you will stand out like an eagle amongst sparrows.

There are five steps. Each of these steps must be carried out in turn. There are no shortcuts. And they are not easy. But once you come to the end of them, maintaining these five steps will indeed be easy, as you will be a very different person from the person that began. They will now be part of your nature. There is a saying: no man can step into the same river twice, as it is not the same river, and you are not the same man.

That is, when you see the fruit of your perseverance you will feel no temptation to return to your previous existence. You will exist on a plane that you had barely even dreamed of. Like the aircraft that is now in cruise control high above the clouds, you will live your life at a level that will make the struggle to get off the ground worth the effort, and you can cruise through life with your new and more genuine persona. This is because you will have discovered your true self and you will feel no desire to return to your previous facsimile of a person.

Marcus Aurelius said “the mind sits superior to the body.” You will come to embrace this principle. As you go through this process you will communicate with your body in just the same way that you would communicate with a pet. You will tell it what to do and it will obey.

You will also come to understand that emotions are the language of your body and not your mind, but we will get to that in Step 3.

I know what some of you are thinking at this point: I don’t need to go to all this effort. I can just fake it. There are hundreds of YouTube clips telling me how to dress, how to talk, what to say, what body language to use, how to conduct myself and so on. All I have to do is do all these things and I will appear masculine.

It doesn’t work. And that’s because you can’t fool yourself.

As a man thinks, so is he

Proverbs 27:5

Joe Dispenza says that we all exude an electromagnetic field. This is something we have no control over, but somehow what we are exudes into your surroundings and others can sense it. Perhaps this is why it’s called masculine “energy.”

The inevitable consequence of this is that others will think of you what you think of yourself. If you see yourself as a weakling, others will too. On the other hand, if you have embraced your innate masculine energy, others will see that.

This is particularly the case with women. Although I think Dispenza is right with his explanation of the energy we exude, it is also the case that women are much better judges of character than men. This is because women will unconsciously pick up very subtle cues of body language and voice intonation in ways that men can’t. That is, your body language is a language you have no control over.

In other words, you can’t fake it and there are no shortcuts.

The five steps are

  1. achieving mastery over your stomach
  2. achieving mastery over your sexuality
  3. achieving mastery over your emotions
  4. becoming self sufficient
  5. achieving mastery over your mouth

Each of these principles is a massive topic on its own and will be considered in turn. Note that what I have written is simply a summary, and I could easily write several pages on each (and may do one day).

Also, this has been my path – my experience. It worked. If you wish to place your own interpretation or mode of practice on these five steps that’s entirely up to you, as you are the one that will reap the consequences, one way or the other.

  1. Achieving Mastery Over Your Stomach

This is a metaphor for achieving physical discipline. It is the starting point because it devolves simply into a series of decisions that anyone can make. They will be hard at first, but the more you stick with them, the easier they become.

There are three aspects

  • What you eat and when
  • How you exercise
  • Your daily routine and living space

    1.1 What you eat and when

Our desire to eat food is our most basic physical need. Apart from sleep which happens involuntarily anyway, no physical desire is more innate than the need for food and drink. If we indulge that need, however, we finish up overweight and do not like what we see when we look in the mirror.

By the time you complete this step, your food intake will be nothing more than what your body needs, and you won’t be ashamed of what you see in the mirror. Even if you have not trimmed down to your optimum weight you will at least know that you are on the way and will feel good about yourself.

Food will become something you consume for nutrition, not pleasure. That’s not to say that you can’t enjoy eating it, but it’s a by-product of its main function.

Essentially, I only eat one meal a day. If you Google “OMAD” you will find many videos discussing the physiology and logistics of it, along with the concept of intermittent fasting of which OMAD is a subset. I have a single meal in the evening and that’s it. The meal is ketogenic end contains mostly protein, with an amount equivalent to about one gram per pound of lean body weight. In my case that’s about 150 grams.

The rest of the day I drink only coffee and water and tea.

If the thought of that horrifies you it’s probably because you think you’ll be hungry. And yes, you will, as I am. At first it was difficult, but then my mind changed. And this is what it’s all about. This process is about your mind getting mastery over your body. In the early stages my body would say to my mind “I’m hungry.” My mind would then say “oh you poor thing. Let’s just try to put up with it.”

But as I progressed on this route and I began to understand the benefits of OMAD, I realised that the hunger was a necessary part of the process. Therefore, it wasn’t bad but good. In other words, I came to enjoy the feeling of hunger. It felt good. When I felt hungry I felt sharp, I felt alert, I felt alive. I knew that I was on my way to being a better man and the hunger was a reminder that I was achieving my goal.

I have since found an echo of this in the stoic writings of Epictetus. We accept our trials and difficulties as necessary tools for us to be forged into the man that we should be. Without this trial, without this hunger, I cannot achieve the end I’m after. Therefore the hunger is good and I embrace it.

We also find this concept in the Bible.

Count it all joy, my brothers, when you meet trials of various kinds, for you know that the testing of your faith produces steadfastness. And let steadfastness have its full effect, that you may be perfect and complete, lacking in nothing (James 1:2-4).

I’m sure that James was considering suffering in the broader sense of the term, and wasn’t referring to food, largely because obesity and the kind of self indulgence that we see today wasn’t an issue in Biblical times, but nonetheless the principle stands.

Once you train your body to only eat once per day then after a while it will become easy. Lunchtime rolls around and you simply won’t notice. You will live your day with sharpness and clarity that you never had when your stomach was perpetually full of food. Your body, initially screaming at you for skipping meals, will be reduced to that of an obedient puppy. It will come to understand that eating once per day is the new normal and it had better get used to it.

At this stage you may be wondering what this will do to your energy levels. At first you will experience lethargy. Once your body switches into ketosis, however, your energy will return, as your body will be burning fat for fuel. I do my workouts at the gym in a fasted state, immediately before I come home to eat in the evening.

And of course once you look into it this is not at all unreasonable. The notion of eating three meals per day is not based on our biology but our culture. This is discussed extensively in many online articles about intermittent fasting and OMAD.

1.2 How you exercise and when

The path to masculinity needs a physical regimen of some sort. And it needs to be taken seriously, so join a gym.

There are three types of people in gyms:

  • Those that want to trim down and get fitter (most women)
  • Those that want to get bigger (muscles)
  • Those that want to get stronger

You are going to get a Personal Trainer to write you a program, and focus on the third one. Why? What’s wrong with the other two?

Going to the gym to trim down generally involves some sort of aerobic activity – treadmill, stepper, or rower. There’s nothing inherently wrong with this (I use a rower at home), but it just won’t achieve much for you as a man. YouTube is full of stories of guys that have done this, with virtually no impact on their waistline (for reasons I won’t go into). But in any case, the path I’m describing is not about specifically losing weight. That’s a by-product, not a goal. It also fails to present any serious challenge to you, which is necessary, but more on this later.

Lifting weights to get bigger muscles is actually counter-productive to the development of masculinity. Show me a guy flexing his muscles in front of a mirror, and I’ll show you a guy that is insecure in his masculinity. He needs people to see his muscles to feel validated as a man. And this targets one of the biggest myths in our culture – the supremacy of the “Alpha” male – the guy with big muscles and tatts and a bald head and expensive cars.

This type of guy is a facsimile of a man. He’s desperately trying to look like something he knows he isn’t. As he has no internal validation, he seeks it from others. More on this when we discuss “self-sufficiency.”

I know what some of you are thinking at this stage – hold on – if I do weights, don’t both things happen at once – bigger muscles and more strength?

No, not necessarily, but there is obviously some overlap. If you lift for size, you will get stronger, and if you lift for strength you will get bigger, but it’s possible to focus on one of these.

Essentially, if you lift for size you do high reps with low weights and if you lift for strength you do low reps with high weights.

I’ve heard it expressed this way – lifting for size is a hardware upgrade and lifting for strength is a software upgrade. That is, lifting for size increases muscle tissue, and lifting for strength trains your central nervous system – that is, optimising the performance of the muscle tissue you have.

So when you are in the gym how do you know which guys are lifting for size and which guys are lifting for strength? It’s really easy. Keep an eye on what they look at when they are lifting a weight. The bodybuilder types will be watching their muscles as they lift the weights. They can do this because the weights they are lifting are not very heavy and therefore they don’t need to focus on the weight itself.

The guys lifting for strength, however, do not watch their muscles when they are lifting. That is because when I am lifting a weight at the very limit of my ability I must focus every neurone in my brain into getting the maximum performance out of my muscles. And that is simply because this is the part of your body that you are training when you are lifting for strength – your central nervous system. Therefore I will often close my eyes and just focus on the feeling in my muscles as I take the weight. This is also the best way to focus on correct form. As I feel the muscles working I can sense in my body when my form is correct and the muscles are working at their most efficient.

Here is why you’re going to lift for strength:

  • It’s real. It’s the core of your masculinity. Guys that lift for size are fakes and they know it. That is, they want to look strong without actually being strong. They are taking the easy road. This is the reason that guys like this often get tattoos and powerful cars. By seeking approval from others they are seeking to silence the voice in their head that says “you are a fake.” Unfortunately, people, particularly women, can sense this. That’s why women do not find muscle bound men attractive. They certainly like guys that fit and are in shape, but they somehow sense that the bodybuilder types are lacking something.

 

  • It’s difficult. To lift weights at the limit of your strength requires commitment and focus, much more than the other two approaches. As you force yourself to do it, you achieve mastery over your body
  • It effects your mind. You won’t hear this anywhere else. If it is the case that lifting heavy weights is training your central nervous system, then it is also affecting your mind. And having done this for a while now, I’m finding it has an effect that I wasn’t expecting. When I’m out of the gym and going about my daily activities, I feel a strength within me that exudes from me. It’s as though the training of my central nervous system has retrained my brain, and I cannot help but get the impression that people can sense it. In other words, I feel innately strong, in every sense of the term. Consequently, I find myself standing differently, walking differently, speaking differently.I have watched many videos over the years from women giving dating advice to men. Many of them talk about body language – how you carry yourself. When you lift for strength, you reach a state where you just feel strength oozing through every part of you, and your body language, and confidence, becomes very natural. You don’t speak and act a certain way because you’re following someone else’s advice, but you do it because it’s now part of your nature.

    Moreover, the physical strength you feel in your body becomes a springboard for strength in other areas of your life – strength of character, strength of will, and so on. That is, other things in your life that have seemed difficult will now seem easier, as you will simply feel stronger. As I said, this was unexpected, and I’ve not heard this anywhere else.

  • It boosts natural testosterone levels in a way that no other form of exercise does. This has multiple benefits. It’s also very good for your joints and can stop you getting arthritis.
  • It will cut fat from you like no other exercise regime will.
  • The muscle you build will be in proportion and look natural. Guys that lift for size can very easily look disproportionate. In other words, their muscles are just too big. It screams to the world “I am insecure and need to have the appearance of big muscles to feel validated.”

Note – if you want to see the difference between lifting for size and lifting for strength have a look at the Anatoly YouTube clips. He is a little guy who is a very good powerlifter. He goes into gyms pretending to be the janitor and easily lifts the same weights as the big bodybuilders. The other routine he has is to put powder in his beard and hobbles in on a walking stick as though he’s an old man. Then he lifts the heavy weights to the astonishment of everyone. It’s very funny to watch.

  1. Your daily routine

Marcus Aurelius said this:

At dawn, when you have trouble getting out of bed, tell yourself: “I am rising to do the work of a human being. What do I have to complain about, if I’m going to do what I was born for—the things I was brought into the world to do? Or is this what I was created for? To huddle under the blankets and stay warm?” — But it’s nicer here …

So were you born to feel “nice”? Instead of doing things and experiencing them? Don’t you see the plants, the birds, the ants and spiders and bees going about their individual tasks, putting the world in order, as best they can? And you’re not willing to do your job as a human being? Why aren’t you running to do what your nature demands? 

The Bible says:

As a door turns on its hinges, so does a sluggard on his bed. Prov. 26:14

You are going to establish a daily routine that will involve you rising at the same time every day (unless there are extenuating circumstances of some sort).

When you rise you will spend some time meditating. This is something that Joe Dispenza talks about a lot and will be referenced in the bibliography at the end of this document.

This goes hand in hand with the physical discipline introduced by controlling your eating habits.

Along with the idea of the disciplined use of your time you will stop wasting your time watching TV or scrolling through clickbait on your phone. More about this in the fifth point. You will treat your time as valuable and will start reading books. You will control what comes into your head and therefore into your life.

That’s not to say that you never watch anything on your TV – there is lots of good stuff on YouTube for example. But it just means that you are very selective. I used to watch a lot of documentaries, for example, particularly about historical events simply because they were so interesting. But now the question I ask myself with everything I watch is “how is this improving me? How is this information making me a better person?”

Thus, everything you do without exception will be filtered through this criterion. How is this making me a better person?

This discipline with my time includes my workout routine in the gym. I wait three minutes between sets and will often watch one of the TV’s that are up on the wall to kill the time. Quite frequently as the three minutes is approaching there is something on that I want to watch, for example, a quiz show where a contestant is about to answer a question. But on each occasion I silently asked myself “how will my life be enhanced by seeing whether that contestant answers that question? On the other hand, my life will be enhanced if I go and do another set.”

This approach resulted in a reordering of my life’s priorities. I watch a few selected news shows to keep abreast of what’s happening in the world, but I have lost all interest in things that don’t matter, such as sport. I could not tell you who won the AFL for example as I did not watch a single game.

In just the same way that I begin the day with an ordered regime, I finish the day in the same way. I have a time of reflection and meditation about the day. What did I achieve? What could I have done better? What am I thankful for? This winds me down and prepares me for sleep.

Again, as I select the YouTube video that I am going to meditate to at this time (usually a Gregorian chant) I am once again tempted by things that YouTube is suggesting to me – click bait about aviation or cars or motorcycles (the sort of videos that I used to watch a lot of).

Again, however, I asked the same question of myself as I do in the gym. Am I here to meditate or am I here to watch useless information about cars or bikes? Discipline at this time of the day is essential as you wind down for sleep.

Of course this principle of discipline applies to every area of your life. That includes creating order in your environment. Your house and your yard will be neat and tidy and ordered. Many men live in messy environments using the excuse that they are too busy. If, however, they didn’t waste time watching TV they would find they had plenty of time. You know what needs to be done, so do it.

Every hour of the day give vigorous attention, as a Roman and as a man, to the performance of the task in hand with precise analysis, with unaffected dignity, with human sympathy, with dispassionate justice- and to vacating your mind from all its other thoughts – freed from all lack of aim, from all passion – led deviation from the ordinance of reason, from pretence, from love of self, from dissatisfaction with what fate has dealt you.

Marcus Aurelias

This commitment to creating order often involves little things – not going to bed each night until the kitchen table is cleared, the dishwasher is stacked, all extraneous junk has been cleared out of the car, the mailbox has been cleared, and so on.

Your environment speaks to you. Whenever I see mess I imagine it saying to me “this mess is your doing. It is a reflection of who you are. Are you a man or are you a child? A child expects someone to clean up after him. A man takes responsibility for his actions.”

  1. Mastery over your Sexuality

As this is a public website and as it has my name attached to it I am a little constrained in terms of what I can say, as there are things about me that I do not wish to be public knowledge. Suffice it to say, however, that the principle behind this is simple – you stay away from pornography and everything associated with it. You also get off any dating apps.

If you have mastered your stomach then this will be easy. I learned this at a young age. I am one of the few men to have suffered from an eating disorder, in my mid 20s. I was bulimic and have experienced the very worst of bingeing and purging and everything associated with it. But I did learn one valuable lesson. When I was going through this phase, which lasted about two years, my sexuality completely shut down. It shut down to the point that I wasn’t even subject to temptation. I had about as much interest in sexuality as I did in knitting and Russian ballet.

If you are reading this as a married person the same principle applies. Porn is every bit as much an issue with married men as it is for single men. But when you achieve mastery in this area your sexuality will be confined to your wife and your wife alone.

The reasons for getting off porn are many and varied, and I won’t go into them here, but there is one factor that I’ve not seen discussed anywhere else, and it’s very relevant to the issue of embracing your masculine nature: essentially, it’s letting your body have mastery over your mind, and diminishes you as a man.

This is one of the many areas where our society has it all wrong. In popular culture a womaniser is seen as being masculine. His repeated conquests are seen as a mark of his manhood. But nothing could be further from the truth. There is nothing masculine about being in slavery to one particular part of your body.

Thus the man that indulges in pornography is a weakling and he knows it. And in just the same way that the man that is living in his masculine energy exudes confidence end dominance the man who indulges in porn exudes weakness and subservience.

Thus to achieve mastery over your body this is an area where you must walk in complete victory.

When you have achieved mastery in this area you have now achieved mastery over your two most fundamental physical needs, and you are ready to now target your emotions.

  1. Mastery over your Emotions

It is never manly to give in to your emotions

Marcus Aurelius

It is important to acknowledge the fact that emotions themselves are neither good nor bad. What is either good or bad is how you respond to them. Mastery in this area is simply living your life such that the emotions do not dictate your actions. You stand aloof from your body with your mind. You observe the emotional responses of your body to various things in just the same way that you might observe the behaviour of your pet dog.

These emotions may be happiness, sadness, disappointment, pleasure, anger, and so on.

And the influence of these emotions can be very powerful and pervasive. Moreover, in the normal human condition they are the default response. In the natural state of things they exert greater power over our will than our mind. Many is the time that we have responded out of an emotion and have had cause to regret it later.

This is such a well understood principle that there are many industries that use it. Notably anyone that is selling something, and in particular, houses. It is a well known fact that most houses are bought on emotion, mostly on the part of the woman if a couple is involved. The estate agent therefore will target the woman with his marketing.

Also anyone that has done any type of public speaking will know that the most persuasive speeches are those that target the emotions. This was the principle behind the rise of Adolf Hitler. He was a master orator, possibly the best of the 20th century. He was able to use emotions to great effect in his speeches, both in terms of the language used and the way he used his voice and body. The result was an absolutely slavish devotion to him from people at all levels.

A man needs to be immune to this. You need to train yourself such that your emotions do not have automatic sway over you and are always subject to your mind. But this cannot happen until you have first mastered your stomach and your sexuality as these are the two most strident voices that your body has. Once you reach this point you will find things that normally triggered a response have lost their power. You find yourself cut off in traffic by a bad driver and while you will recognise the emotional response of anger it will not determine your actions.

But it’s not just trivial things like this. You are driving your car and are daydreaming a little bit and don’t notice that you are speeding. Next thing you know a camera has flashed you and you have a speeding fine on the way. The man who is in charge of his emotions will simply take this in his stride. They will be no anger, no swearing, no yelling at the government or the police force for revenue raising. You will simply take responsibility for your actions and resolve to pay attention better in the future. Moreover, you will see each victory over your emotions in this area as a mental “rep” – something that has just made you a bit stronger (like reps when you lift weights).

When you achieve mastery over your emotions you will be resolute and implacable. Nothing will upset you or your equilibrium. To quote Marcus Aurelius you will be like a headland, resolute against the surging ocean.

Many years ago I used to go to an abandoned granite quarry on the NSW South Coast call the Boneyard to meditate. I would often watch the ocean as it surged against the rocks and then receded. You are the rock and the ocean are your emotions and life’s circumstances in general. The waves come rushing towards the rocks with great anger and motion and turmoil and intent. But then they crash against the rocks and instantly lose all their power. The rock stands resolute and unmoved and immobile, and the water gently recedes back into the ocean.

Once you achieve mastery over your emotions you will be like this. Life, other people, circumstances, and your own desires and emotions will rage and crash against you but you will not move. You are a headland. Strong, resolute, and unswayed by the vicissitudes of life.

This applies to what we may call positive emotions too. When good things happen to us we don’t run around excitedly like a schoolgirl. We acknowledge our good fortune and simply adopt the attitude “of course – I expected no less.”

  1. Becoming Self-Sufficient

Self-sufficiency means that you don’t need anything from anyone. It also means you don’t need anyone.

That is, you walk your own path and don’t need anyone’s approval. This type of man is referred to on various internet sites as a “Sigma” male. I do not know whether this is a formal definition, or indeed whether the other designations for males are formally recognised  (in the literature) but in the sense that they are defined and discussed at all, the model has some value.

The so called Sigma is termed a lone wolf. He does his own thing and does not seek approval or validation from anyone. This is the very core of self sufficiency. He has his own value system and does not need it to be approved by anyone else. This generally means that he has a very small number of close friends, and he’s very picky. When he pursues romantic relationships with women he does so from a position of abundance.

That is, he knows that he’s the giver. He needs nothing from the woman including her acceptance or approval. In his interactions with her he screens her for suitability and compatibility. If it is the case that the woman is not attracted to him for any reason, he simply walks away. He never ever makes any attempt to meet a woman’s standards. If for whatever reason he is not her type, he doesn’t lose a moment’s sleep over it. He simply walks away.

This means that in any interaction, whether professional or social, he is the genuine person that is. That is, he never says or does anything to appear to be something that will be accepted by someone. This applies to all levels of professional or social interactions. The only person whose approval he requires is his own. He knows that having achieved mastery over his own body he is a very rare specimen, and only gives his time to those who recognise his value.

That is, he focuses on improving himself, not proving himself.

It could be argued that Jesus Christ was the perfect example of this. And even his enemies acknowledge it. The Pharisees once said to him:

“Teacher, we know that you are a man of integrity. You aren’t swayed by others, because you pay no attention to who they are; but you teach the way of God in accordance with the truth. Is it right to pay the imperial tax to Caesar or not?” Mark 12:14

It’s interesting to note that this principle is the source of the “bad boy” phenomenon. It is widely acknowledged that women have a weakness for so-called “bad boys.” Many people do not understand it but it is the fact that they mimic self sufficiency that is at the core of it. Women crave self sufficiency in a man because they know they do not and cannot have it themselves. They require a man to protect them and provide for them, and the more fearless the man is (both of actual danger or the approval of others) the more she’s attracted to him.

So called bad boys mimic this quality because they buck societal norms. That is, they openly and knowingly go against the accepted standards of behaviour, thus getting across the notion that they walk to the beat of their own drum and require approval from no one. That is, they appear to display self sufficiency at the highest level, or, as Jordan Peterson puts it “fearless competence.”

Tragically, of course, it is generally not this at all. Their “bad boy” persona stems from insecurity. That is, they really do require approval from others, just not the establishment. They most certainly require approval from their mates and social circle. That is, they are every bit as weak and as a needy of approval as the most archetypal beta male. Very often this results in them abusing and exploiting women. They do it simply because they need to bolster their fragile ego by exercising power over someone.

Thus there is a requirement for women to understand this phenomenon. And whereas this document is essentially written for the edification of men, it would certainly behove women to understand it for the purpose of accurately interpreting male behaviour.

Thus the man that is self sufficient can present himself to a woman as her sole supply. He can present himself to her as someone who will look after her and protect her in every sense of the term. She will know that everything she needs the man can supply because he is self sufficient.

This is represented by the figure below.